Friends and Beyond

Before Getting Married There Is One Important Subject That You Need To Discuss

Before making plans for a wedding after you say "I Do" there is some other planning that needs to take place.  These are the plans for your financial future.  Finances is one subject that most couples have no communication about before they take the ultimate walk down the aisle.  Yet, it the most import plans that need to be duscussed and agreed upon.  It is amazing when two people come together how different their approaches to money can be. 

Indeed this can be one of the most difficult conversations to have prior to marriage but this matter should be discussed before you decide how many will be attend the ceremony.  If you have this communication about the finances early in your relationship afeter you decide to tie the know you mostly likely will get off to a much better start.  There are several questions that you can ask to include the amount of accounts there are and what kind are they, how many credit card and their limits and balances to name two.  Obviously these alone could cause some discomfort in the evening conversations but without them you could be doomed to financial setbacks or blessed with a firm financial foundation. So before you say "I Do" do talk money. 

What Do You Do When You Break Up With Your Partner

It seem couples are breaking up at an alaming rate.  There are severalthings to keep in mind when this happens.  First of all if it i a marriage it is important to think and believe in rebuilding and not divorce.  Remember that what you focus on will expand.  This is true of divorce.  If you constantly think of ending in divorce, the chances are that you will in fact end that way.  A key thing to remember is that a separation of any kind is a cry for some space to think and regroup.  Re evaluate the relationship and dedermine the reason you became a couple in the beginning.  Are you still doing those things?  If not then why?  It is very important to be real in the beginning but even more important to be real in your re evaluation.  Have patience that the best for both people involved will emerge.  Should our re evaluation result in the common desire to reunite, focus on rebuilding a better foundation than the first so when the wins of adversity hit, that foundation is less likely to crack.

Critters In Your Relationship

Many times a couple will go along in a relationship or marriage and not realize that there are critters eating away at their relationship.  Each person gets caught up in the daily routine and are blind to the other person and their needs.  Things become mundane or overrated and the couple begins to come apart unknowingly.  This happens like temites destroy a building.  It is subtle but none the less destructive.  From time to time it is a good idea to communicate with each other and do pest control to ward out pests that can damage or destroy the very thing that you once cherished.  By being aware when the little poblems that are destructive critters have invaded, a couple can take the measures needed to keep the relationship healthy and alive.